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TYLER + MADELINE’S JOY
married: july 21, 2012
see their wedding: here.
“Tyler and I have been together a long time, almost 7 years now. I always would tell people “I already feel like we’re married”. So I was truly surprised at how different I felt when I went from girlfriend to wife. This change, I think, had to do with this instinct to now protect and cherish my marriage. Since July 21, life hasn’t changed too much. Tyler and I are homebodies and we like it that way. A big night out for us is if I have a show and Blue Ribbon Band’s #1 fan is there to watch. Otherwise we’re cooking a nice dinner, way too much food for 2 people, and finding a new show to be obsessed with. And on the weekends, we usually spend some time with the families.
When I met Tyler, I knew a deal breaker (more on his part) would be how he handled my crazy family. There are a lot of us, we are loud, intense and a lot to handle. It’s always a good test for new partners in the family to see how they handle the family and if they’re in it for the long haul. Tyler has been accepted as part of the family for years now. But more than that, he truly enjoys spending time with us. Thanksgiving this year, I think there were about 40 of us, and that wasn’t even everybody. Tyler has so fully embraced all of my family members, and he has special relationships and bonds with them that are separate from mine.
The way I feel about his family is the same. My in-laws are amazing, and have embraced me with open arms. However… one thing we keep hearing on both sides is “when are you going to have babies!?!?” all of you newlyweds can relate to this I’m sure. The pressure is on. My grandma actually begged my husband, before we were married to give her a great grandchild. BEGGED. So Tyler and I have been overwhelmed with plans with the future lately. Tyler and I are both completely excited about becoming parents, and wish we could start trying now. But thankfully, I married an incredibly responsible and reliable man, who doesn’t make irrational decisions (unlike me). So buying a house first, then baby. I’ve been sounding like a broken record saying that to family and friends lately. If I could give myself some advice, I would try to enjoy sometime as newlyweds. We have not been married 7 years.
We’ve only been married 5 months. We have time. And we have so much to be grateful for. It’s hard to not feel the pressure and to start hearing that biological clock ticking away. If having kids is supposed to be in our future, it will happen. Until that time, I’m going to try and gently remind myself to be grateful for a loving husband, incredible families and friends, and be more present in the life I have now.” – madeline
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I told you before, Jenna, and I will tell you again: Seeing Tyler & Madeline’s photos are what gave me that “I HAVE TO HAVE HER!” moment. Someday 🙂 And seriously, what a gorgeous couple!