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You know what’s wild? There are parts of my life I’ve never talked about on the podcast. Not because they’re off-limits, but because no one’s ever asked.

So I decided to flip the script. What if I asked myself the questions I actually wish people would ask? The ones that go beyond “what’s your morning routine?” and dig into what’s really happening beneath the surface. The messy stuff. The growth stuff. The “I’m not sure I have this figured out yet” stuff.

This episode got vulnerable fast. But that usually means it’s exactly the one I need to share.

Here Are 5 of the 10 Questions I Answered:

1. What Are You Working Through in Therapy?

It’s funny how we can live inside patterns for decades without questioning them. Lately, therapy has been helping me see one of mine clearly. It’s this deeply ingrained belief that if I can just stay ahead, get more done, be more prepared, plan further into the future, then nothing bad can happen.

It sounds like a practical mindset on the surface, but it’s really about control. Safety. This belief started when I was a young gymnast doing homework on the bus so I could give my all at practice. That habit of racing ahead became the rhythm of my life, even when I didn’t realize it.

Now? I’m slowly trying to let that go. To believe that being present is just as worthy as being prepared. That I’m still safe even if I’m not two steps ahead of every possibility. That rest doesn’t mean failure. And that maybe, just maybe, my worth isn’t tied to how productive I am.

2. How Do You Stay Connected in Marriage When Life Pulls You Apart?

I had a dream the other night about Drew. Just the two of us, back in the early days. It made me realize how long we’ve been doing life together. Longer than we were apart before we met.

We’re still together. Very much so. But we’ve also entered a new season, one that doesn’t revolve around date nights and constant connection, but around parenting, building, shifting, and rebalancing. We’ve had to redefine what closeness looks like when our lives ask different things of us every day.

Sometimes it’s sharing the couch and a sandwich after the baby goes to sleep. Sometimes it’s walking together in silence just to be near one another. And sometimes it’s just making sure we look each other in the eye and say, “Hey, I still choose you.”

3. What Belief No Longer Serves You?

The stay ahead strategy? It shows up in my business too. And honestly, it’s been part of what made our systems smooth and our team low stress. We plan in advance, we stay ready, and that’s helped us avoid the chaotic burnout many teams face.

But I’m also recognizing that this strength might come from an old wound. It’s control dressed up as preparation. Hustle masquerading as strategy. And I’m starting to wonder if this way of operating, while effective, might not be what I need moving forward.

Not everything needs to be optimized. Sometimes enough is enough.

4. What Are You Learning When You’re Not Working?

Something my therapist said recently keeps echoing in my mind. She told me that time outside of therapy is just as important as time in therapy. The integration is just as powerful as the insight.

And I think the same is true for our growth as humans, not just entrepreneurs. We are so quick to read, listen, and consume. To chase the next strategy or upgrade. But sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is pause and ask, “What do I already know that I’m not living yet?”

That’s the work. Not just learning, but becoming.

5. What’s Really Going On Behind the Scenes?

A lot. Some of it is soft and beautiful. Some of it is messy and hard. I’ve been rethinking how I measure success. I’m asking deeper questions about motherhood, about the legacy I want to leave, about the parts of my identity that don’t fit inside my job title.

I’ve been craving less noise and more presence. More texture, less polish. I’ve been noticing how much I love creating not just to teach, but to reflect. To make space for others to do the same.

What Else Is In the Full Episode?

There are five more questions I answer, and honestly? They might be the most vulnerable ones. I share about the season of motherhood I didn’t expect (and what I’m learning to let go of in that process). I talk about the fear that still shows up in my work, even after all these years, and why I think it might never fully go away. 

I reveal my quiet obsessions, the ones I don’t usually mention because they feel too personal or too weird. And I get real about how I’m completely redefining what success means to me now, which looks nothing like what I thought it would five years ago.

Plus, I unpack the specific moments that have shaped who I’m becoming, not who I was. This one felt vulnerable to record, which is how I know it’s worth sharing.

Here’s Your Reminder 

Sometimes growth doesn’t start with more information or another strategy. It starts by asking ourselves better questions. Not about what we can accomplish or how much we can produce, but about who we’re becoming in the process.

This episode was different for me. I didn’t wait for someone else to ask the hard questions. I didn’t filter through what would be “on brand” or palatable. I just sat down and asked myself the things I’ve been thinking about but never said out loud. And honestly? It was terrifying and freeing at the same time.

Because here’s what I’ve learned: We spend so much time curating our answers for other people. We practice what we’ll say when someone asks about our work, our family, our plans. But we rarely pause long enough to ask ourselves the questions that matter most. The ones that don’t have tidy answers. The ones that make us sit with discomfort.

Here’s My Question For You 

What’s something no one has ever asked you, but you wish they would?

Maybe it’s about a dream you’ve quietly let go of. Maybe it’s about a pattern you’re finally seeing clearly. Maybe it’s about who you’re becoming now that you’re not who you used to be.

Write it down. Sit with it. Ask yourself with compassion, not judgment. You might be surprised what comes up when you give yourself permission to tell the truth without needing to tidy it up first.

And when we take the time to pause and answer honestly, imperfectly, with grace, we start to hear the truth we’ve been carrying all along. That’s when the real transformation begins. Not when we have all the answers, but when we’re brave enough to sit with the questions.

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